(via garconniere)
everybody loves a revolutionary womyn
until she calls you out on your shit
they admire us until they realize
they can’t contain us
when we become mirrors for their
unwillingness to transform
they turn against us
they speak of us in songs of praise
but ignore us when we call…
wow. thank you.
ya im tired of the poser ‘feminist men’ who like to talk the talk but ain’t willing to walk the walk. they like to talk big but when it comes down to supporting the women around them and in the lives in tangible ways, they fail. it never stops hurting when brothers, biological or not, let me down. i say if you ain’t willing to practice the ethics of being a loving warrior then get the fuck outta my sight cuz you wastin my time. and come back when you’re willing to commit to practicing your so-called convictions. and i say this out of the deepest place of love and raging anger in my heart.
(via sexceespiritbitch)
"The crisis facing men is not the crisis of masculinity, it is the crisis of patriarchal masculinity. Until we make this distinction clear, men will continue to fear that any critique of patriarchy represents a threat."
— bell hooks, The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love (via hello-amber)
(Source: puzzledpantherrr, via man-themed)
Image- a scan of a newspaper clipping with the following text bordered in a blue highlighter box: “I don’t care if you are the bastard child of Paris Hilton and Voldemort and your full-time job is as a stripper and you are the only girl for miles - you still do not deserve to be assaulted or raped.”
Tiara is so quotable!
(via fancybidet)
"As a Muslim feminist woman of color, I cannot relate to Slutwalks as it caters mostly to the definition of emancipation set by white women. Slutwalks deviate in terms of delivering the message against sexual assault. It turns a blind eye to women of cultures where flimsy clothes don’t necessarily lead to rapes. Muslim women get raped too. Nassim Elbardouh is right. “Do Not Rape” Walk sounds better. This isn’t to say that I don’t support Slutwalks. I simply can’t relate to a liberating movement that does not liberate nor acknowledge me. Western feminism, despite its undeniable achievements, still perpetuates the image of a white woman as the liberated one. If these feminists do claim to represent all women, they need to understand the dynamics of the cultures other women hail from. Don’t care if you’re wearing a thong or burka, no one has the right to rape you. Burka clad brown Muslim women get raped too. Represent us. I want a movement that represents me regardless of my color and creed. End victim blaming and rape culture by representing everyone."
—
Mehreen Kasana (via politikalnohow)
^THIS
(via dismoilaverite)
A good point.
(via fsufeminist)
fantastic.
(via heckyeahwhatever)
a) Some Muslim feminist women dress like “Sluts” (and if you are in a more conservative/traditional environment the standards for “slut” get exponentially wider) and get abused for that too! Not all Muslims as modest headdress-wearing types and to assume that is just another form of slut-shaming.
b) This is also assuming that all Muslim women dress the same way, and conflating religion with race.
d) There are organised efforts in some SlutWalk cities for a “Hijab, Hoodies, and HotPants” group, signifying the fact that clothes don’t draw assault onto you, and that just because you’re in one group doesn’t mean you don’t respect those who wear something significantly more modest or more revealing.
e) You don’t have to go to support *your right to be a slut* (whatever the word means to you); you can go there as an *ally*. A lot of people are assuming that they can only walk if they identify with the word thoroughly - but really, it’s important that non-sluts march too because the big issue isn’t necessarily just the assaulters, it’s the rest of society that gives this kind of atrocity a free pass.
f) I’ve said this before but I’m annoyed at how some people (White folks especially) will cherry-pick random WoC anti-SlutWalk comments to justify their distaste for the project, usually in the guise of “look how not-racist I am!”. If you don’t like it, feel so on your own terms - don’t use us as a cover, because not all WoC think the same, and SWoC are especially being erased in this movement by debators. (Funny how I got more flack from anti-SlutWalkers claiming I’m a token than from the pro-SW people for being brown…)
(via creatrixtiara)
thank you, tiara.
(via oscillating)
(Source: pushinghoopswithsticks, via sylviaandherfigtree)
"
And make no mistake about it: we can be called sluts for nearly any reason at all. If we’re dancing. If we’re drinking. If we have ever in our lives enjoyed sex. If our clothes aren’t made of burlap. If we’re women of color, we’re assumed to be sluts before we do a single thing because we’re “exotic.” If we’re fat or disabled or otherwise considered undesirable, we’re assumed to be sluts who’ll fuck anyone who’ll deign to want us. If we’re queer boys or trans women, we’re called sluts in order to punish us for not fearing the feminine. If we’re queer women, especially femme ones, we’re called sluts because we’re obviously “up for anything,” as opposed to actually attracted to actual women. If we’re poor, we’re gold diggers who’ll use sex to get ahead. And god forbid we accuse someone of raping us – that’s the fast track to sluthood for sure, because it’s much easier to tell us what we did wrong to make someone to commit a felony violent crime against us than it is to deal with the actual felon.
There’s a word for all of this. And that word is bullshit. But there’s also a phrase for it: social license to operate. What that means is this: we know that a huge majority of rapes are perpetrated by a small minority of guys who do it again and again. You know why they’re able to rape an average of 6 times each? Because they have social license to operate. In other words: because we let them. Because as a society, we say “oh well, what did she expect would happen if she went back to his room? What did she expect would happen walking around by herself in that neighborhood? What did she expect would happen dressed like a slut?”
"— Jaclyn Friedman at Boston’s Slut Walk (via somechattybroad)
(via jeepster)
